A friend of mine is having a hard time getting over her bff turned lover situation and I sent this in a few texts, but I thought it was worth sharing. If not for you guys, for me. As self-sufficient and self-loving as I am, we all have moments when irrelevant people make us feel worthless. Here is your reminder that you are capable, you are valuable, and you are loved. Boys suck sometimes, but we only dwell on it when we forget who we are. We are the daughters of an almighty, all-powerful, all-loving king. We are his holy treasures, and we really need to start seeing each other as such. We are princesses, man. What more can I say?
Enough of this, dude. So what if he ends up with a girl that’s hotter than you, or nicer than you, or better in this way or that way. SO WHAT.
You are making this guy out to be the most incredible thing to ever happen to you, and he literally is not. Yea, he’s smart. Yea, he’s religious. Yea, he has things going for himself. He seems perfect for you, but if he were, he wouldn’t be making you feel this way about yourself.
You are absolutely brilliant. You are outspoken, sure, but people listen to you. You are so strong and so passionate and so full of life and energy. Any man who makes you feel like you should tone yourself down, or makes you feel small, or makes you feel like you need to prove yourself to him is worth none of your time. Absolutely none.
You don’t have to hold resentment against him, but don’t keep him close. People like that are toxic, and can destroy you. Stop apologizing to yourself.
Stop apologizing period. Be every part of you and be it unapologetically because that’s who you are. That’s how God made you. If every girl was a quiet, shy, polite girl, women would not be able to accomplish what they do now. God made you this way for a reason. And no dumbass boy’s opinion of you should destroy you this much.
If he can’t handle you, God did not make him strong enough to hold you. Stop keeping people in your life that God literally keeps pushing out!!
I will leave you all with this quote that made me really see things differently.
“When you hold a man’s hand and he makes your heart beat faster and he makes you feel giddy and excited, walk away from this man. He is not the man for you. If you hold a man’s hand and he makes you feel warm, safe and secure, hold onto him. This is the man you are going to marry.”