“Il Dolce Far Niente”

This is a quote from one of my favorite movies of all time, Eat Pray Love. In this scene, the main character, Liz, is in a barbershop in Italy waiting for her friend to get his haircut, and she expresses her disappointment that all she has done in Italy is “learn a few words and eat,” when one of the locals getting his hair cut jumps into the conversation with this interesting interjection.

Luca Spaghetti: “Americans. You work too hard, you get burned out. You come home, and spend the whole weekend in your pajamas in front of the T.V.”
Liz: “That’s not far off, actually.”
Luca Spaghetti: “But you don’t know pleasure. You have to be told you’ve earned it. You see a commercial that says: ‘It’s Miller Time!’ And you say, That’s right, now I’m going to buy a six pack. And then drink the whole thing and wake up the next morning and you feel terrible. But an Italian doesn’t need to be told. He walks by a sign that says: You deserve a break today. And he says, Yes, I know. That’s why I’m planning on taking a break at noon to go over to your house and sleep…with your wife!”
: “We call it “il dolce far niente”, the sweetness of doing nothing.”

So I decided to give this theory a try tonight. I had the apartment to myself since my roommates all went out, and I came home and took a long bath with eucalyptus bath salts, playing Alicia Keys on my speaker, drinking half a bottle of wine while singing along to my favorite songs. And I cannot tell you the happiness I felt in that hour. I was so relaxed, so satisfied, so content. I got out and put on my favorite lingerie for no one but myself, and sat eating chocolate cake, ice cream, and, of course, more wine. This time on the couch in all satin, and still singing along to the music.

And here I am, blogging about it. I have nothing important to say here; in fact, I honestly don’t know what the point of this blog was other than to brag about how much fun I had doing nothing by myself. How often can we do that? We spend so much time alone studying, watching tv, texting, etc. But we never really spend time with ourselves. Solitude is an incredibly beautiful thing when you learn how to exercise it to your liking.


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